There is a quiet, powerful transformation that can happen as we age—if we allow it. Becoming the wise elder isn’t about pretending to be young or giving in to society’s ageist expectations. It’s about stepping into a new role with intention and courage. We must confront both external ageism—the cultural messages that say we’re past our prime—and internalized ageism, the quiet voice inside that whispers, “it’s too late.” True wisdom comes when we silence those voices and embrace the richness of our years.

One of the greatest gifts of growing older is clarity. Time feels more precious, so we begin to let go of what no longer matters. People-pleasing, regret, and outdated expectations fall away. We no longer say yes to things that drain us just to keep peace. Instead, we ask ourselves, If not now, when? This is the time to create, to travel, to say what needs saying, to explore what lights us up. This isn’t a shrinking season—it’s an expansive one, full of possibility.

As elders, we also hold a unique responsibility: others are watching how we age. Younger generations are learning from us—not just from our words, but from our energy, our choices, and our outlook. Are we showing them that aging can be vibrant, creative, and joyful? Or are we reinforcing the fear and invisibility that often surround later life? We have the power to be role models of resilience, curiosity, and authenticity. As poet Maya Angelou said, “When you know better, you do better.”

Across many cultures, elders are honored and revered. In Japan, for example, Respect for the Aged Day is a national holiday that celebrates the contributions and wisdom of older adults. Elders are seen as keepers of tradition, advisors, and valued members of the community. What if we reclaimed that role in our own culture? What if we saw ourselves not as faded versions of who we once were, but as powerful examples of what it means to live fully, right to the end?

To do that, we must care for ourselves in body, mind, and spirit—not to chase youth, but to protect our quality of life. Staying active, staying curious, and staying present become acts of strength. This moment, this body, this season—it’s all we have. Now is my time to be 75, not 25. And that is not lesser; it’s just different. Becoming the wise elder is about owning that difference, finding meaning in it, and showing the world what’s truly possible when we age with intention and moxie.

Leslie Maloney is the owner of Meaning and Moxie After 50. She offers speaking engagements, online workshops, and retirement reinvention coaching. She also hosts the weekly podcast "Meaning and Moxie After 50," which features inspiration, ideas, and real talk about life beyond midlife. For more information, visit MeaningandMoxieafter50.com.